Slide it in, squeeze it tight, and think of it like a warm hug… but with benefits.
Lovin’ that skin-to-skin friction?
Then let’s talk about thigh sex. And this time, you can just take things literally, without any issues, because it’s exactly what it sounds like: just some legs, lube, and let the friction do the rest.
You can kiss your performance anxiety goodbye because there’s no pressure here, and never underestimate that skin-to-skin contact; it can feel super intense.
Thigh sex also works best for people who aren’t a fan of penetrative play, or just want something cozy and lazy. So let’s move on from the yapping, and let’s get into the basics!
What is Thigh Sex?
For most penis owners, friction can feel so awesome, no matter where they come from.
You might have heard of blowjobs, titjobs, or even handjobs, and that's the great thing about sex! It’s so versatile.
Or you might have heard, or even tried, thigh sex (also known as interfemoral sex), where you give or receive a thigh job for pleasure.
Thigh sex happens when one partner uses their thighs to give stimulation on another’s genitals, most often a penis owner, while avoiding direct genital contact.
But does it also feel good for the receiver, or the partner who uses their thighs?
Of course! And that’s probably one of the most common misconceptions here, because most people think that it won’t feel good for them.
Thigh sex can also be a great way to give someone a clit stimulation without penetration, but too much friction can make things feel awful too, and around 3 out of 4 vulva owners experienced painful sex at some point, according to Men’s Health.
So, before you jump in, grab that lube to make your partner comfortable, whether it’s inside or outside stimulation.
What are the Perks of Having Thigh Sex?
Most people believe that sex only counts if there’s penetration, but that’s not always the case.
There are plenty of ways to enjoy intimacy, and one of them is thigh sex, but are you aware of its benefits?
A Great Replacement for Anal Sex (Or Even for PIV)
Let’s face it, anal sex can feel painful, even for gay penis owners.
It’s intense enough to feel some ripping; sometimes, there’s blood, or even poop, so it’s not really for everyone.
So, thigh sex can be an awesome alternative if both partners, or even the receiver, isn’t into anal play. It gives that tight feeling but without entering one partner from behind.
But if you’re really into exploring that GI part, and your partner isn’t, there are lots of toys available out there to meet your needs.
For example, you can use a sex doll torso, like this Cheeky Plus, and it will give you all that backdoor warmth and tightness, but without the hassle.
It Wards Off STI Transfers
Compared to genital-to-genital play or oral, it’s less likely you’ll get STIs, because the mucous membranes aren’t involved during thigh sex.
But keep in mind that there’s still some fluid exchange that can happen here, so if you’re unsure, use barriers to add an extra layer of protection.
And although not entirely, using condoms during sex can give you up to 90% level of protection, as long as you use them right, as per Medical News Today.
You’ll Need Less Foreplay
Thigh sex can be arousing itself. And if you and your partner start feeling so horny, but you’re tight on time, just add some lube and put your junk in between, and you’re good to go.
You don’t have to go through all that fuss that happens before penetrative sex.
It Can Be Mutually Enjoyable
Try touching in between your thighs. Then rub it. It feels sensitive, doesn’t it?
If there was a time your partner tried running a vibrator on that part, or even kissed it, you might have felt it so much that it made you squirm.
So, just imagine your partner’s thing, that’s well-lubricated and rock hard, running between them.
Maybe they’re not the only one who’s getting off this time.
How to Have Thigh Sex Without All the Ruckus?
Thinking about how to do thigh sex? Thigh sex isn’t just putting the penis between and rubbing, because you can make it a lot better by doing these suggestions.
- Make sure to do it in a private space, and set a schedule, so you won’t surprise your partner and kill the mood.
- Don’t just ram it in between, and try to set the mood with some teasing, flirty touching, or setting the atmosphere first.
- Make it steamy! You can ram your partner against the wall or lift them on the kitchen counter; the possibilities are limitless.
- If skin-to-skin contact is your thing, discard all your clothing, because thigh sex is better when doing it naked.
- Don’t just focus on humping and riding. You can also use your hands and make it roam on each other’s bodies too.
- Don’t skip the aftercare, so give those thighs some comforting creams or balms if necessary.
What are the Best Thigh Sex Positions and How You Can Make Them a Lot Better?
Excited for that thigh ride? You can check these positions below to make your next thigh sex much more mixed and entertaining.
Spooning, The Cozy Classic
The spooning might be one of the simplest positions to do, and you might have been doing this all along, like when you’re sleeping or cuddling.
To upgrade this position to thigh sex, all the couple has to do is lie together and face the same direction. The giver can also adjust and put themselves a bit lower to match the receiver's mid-thigh.
The giver can also use their hands to cup the receiver’s breast, or give them further stimulation by using nipple clamps.
Doggy Style for Easier Poking
This works like the regular doggie, where the receiver has to get on all fours, while the giver is kneeling or standing behind them.
But instead of penetration, the penis owner can glide in between their partner’s thighs, and this position is also a great way for the receiver to touch their partner’s cock.
The receiver can touch their partner’s tip, or even use a finger vibrator to tease their clit.
Thigh High for That Added Tightness
This next thigh sex position lets the giver have all control, and the receiver just gets everything passively.
All the receiver has to do is lie comfortably on the bed or couch, and the giver can position themselves in front of their partner and lift the other’s legs.
And while the receiver’s legs are up in the air, the giver can insert between their partner’s thighs and pump as much as they want while they hold things up.
This position can also make the penis owner likely finish on the receiver’s belly or breast, so this one’s the best choice if you want to make things a bit hotter.
And speaking of hotness, the giver can also toss in a cock ring in the play to add some power, and they’ll surely burst.
Belly-to-Belly to Make It More Intimate
If you’re the type who likes to see each other’s faces while finishing off, then the belly-to-belly position can make you feel more connected.
To do this, the giver can lie comfortably first, so the receiver can straddle them and position themselves on top. You can imagine the receiver doing the plank above the other, while they support their whole body using their arms.
Then, the giver can insert their thing in between the receiver’s thighs and keep that eye contact.
This position also gives the receiver enough space if they’re into anal play, and they can prefer inserting some butt plug as they ride.
X Marks the Spot for Low-Effort Play
This next thigh sex position is perfect if you’re a lazy couch potato yourself.
First, the giver can lie on a bed or couch, then their partner can lie on top of them across, so they can form an X shape.
The giver can do all the thrusting here, while the receiver can keep their legs close tightly for a more stimulating experience.
And while they’re at it, the giver can also use their hands to massage their partner's butt and enjoy the view.
FAQs
Does thigh sex count as real sex?
Well, it would actually depend on how you view sex, because there’s this misconception where people believe that sex is only sex once a penetration happens, either vaginally or anally. But the thing is, sex can come in many forms, and as long as there’s pleasure involved, we can say it’s sex, whether you did it solo or with someone else.
Is pregnancy still possible when we do thigh sex?
The chances are low, but not unlikely. Even if there’s no vaginal penetration, the seminal fluids can leak everywhere and can go to the opening. So to reduce the risk, you can use barriers, or ask the penis-owning partner to finish away from the vulva.
How can we prevent thigh chaffing or soreness?
If friction is involved, you’ll never go wrong with using a lot of lube, but if your skin starts to sting, you can change positions or add another layer of barrier, like a piece of clothing. And don’t forget to use fragrance-free soap and creams for aftercare to make the healing much faster.
Can mixed-gender couples still enjoy thigh sex?
Yes! In fact, you can also enjoy thigh sex by using wearable dildos and taking advantage of the friction it gives. You can also use sex pillows to adjust the angles to help you hit each other’s genitals. Or if you’re in a hurry, you can just ride each other’s thighs during play, give and take.
How long should we do thigh sex?
There’s really no rule, but you may want to keep it around 5 to 15 minutes because we’re talking about friction here. If it feels good, then that’s awesome. Keep playing. But if your skin starts to heat up, then that might be your cue to pause. Re-lube, change positions, or check your skin for now, before you get back into action.
Get Those Thighs Up and Stress Down
If sex is a playlist, thigh sex is that lo-fi track that you put on. Just chill vibes. No excess productions.
All you need is some warm skin and good friction, and you’re ready for fun!
And hey, if your legs start to protest like they just ran a marathon, it’s alright to pause, switch to a much more comfy position, and repeat.
But if you’re ready to turn things up, you can make your thigh sex sessions way better by visiting BeYourLover for more tips and toys. For sure, you’ll find the best ones that fit your mood and needs so you can keep your thigh sex sessions always exciting.
And remember, the best kind of leg day is the one that always ends with a satisfying sigh.
Special Thanks:
Jordyn Taylor and Cori Ritchey - Writers - Men’s Health
If your thigh job still needs some punch, then you can upgrade it by checking our guides to the Best Anal Sex Positions, Understanding Primal Fetish, and Your Guide to Ass Worship.
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