Your monthly visitor doesn’t mean you need to press pause on intimacy.
Is Aunt Flo already waving in the corner? You just felt horny this early morning, then suddenly, your cramps started to act up and get dramatic.
As you got home, you wondered and asked yourself, “So… are we still doing this?”
Period sex? Love it or hate it. But there are ways to make it more fun, connected, and, of course, not make your bedroom nest look like a bloody crime just happened.
If you’ve always wanted to try to get laid during your period, these period sex tips will help you relax and just enjoy the moment, and worry less about the “what ifs.”
What You Must Learn About Sex During Your Period
First things first: period sex isn’t dirty. Period.
We can always treat menstrual blood as another bodily fluid, as it should be. But doing period sex or not will depend on both partners, whether they’re bold enough to jump in or squeamish enough to quit.
You can always share intimacy with your SO even when you’re on your period, but keep in mind that it’s still sex. So if you’re trying to dodge STIs and having a baby, always keep your protection items ready.
Do You Know That Period Sex Got Some Perks, Too?
Here’s how your bloody week can surprisingly be your wingman during sex.
It Relieves You From Pain
Got serious cramps? Then period sex can help you with that.
Cramps can happen every time your uterus sheds its blood lining. And once you reach the big O, it also contracts during the release, which can give you some relief.
Sex during your period also helps your brain release pain-fighting chemicals called oxytocin, which, according to Verywell Mind, help reduce stress hormones. As a result, you feel much better because you’ll be more relaxed and less anxious.
Your Libido Feels Higher
Thanks to your hormonal changes, you’ll likely feel more horny during your period. As a result, you may last longer and want more.
Blood is Natural Lube
If you don’t have lube in hand during your period, then that’s fine. Your blood can do all the work.
It Gives a Positive Body Image
The more you have sex during your red days, the more you feel confident about yourself.
Period blood is often associated with something dirty or taboo, but the more you have sex during this time of the month, the more you’ll get used to the fact that this blood is nothing more than a usual part of your sexual wellness.
And eventually, you’ll appreciate your body and the magnificent things it can do.
What are the Best Period Sex Tips to Keep It Safe and Less Messy?
Okay, so you’re now ready for bloody sex, but take note of these period sex tips first, so you can keep your next intimate session smooth sailing.
Make the Best of Your Sensitivity
Your hormonal fluctuations during your period can likely make you feel more aroused than usual.
But don’t forget to add some foreplay to make your orgasms feel more intense. If you don’t have a partner, you can always grab your toys, or your favorite dildos or vibrators, to help you achieve multiple orgasms.
Also, don’t forget to play with your clitoris, or even tease your nipples for a bursting happy ending.
Check If Everyone’s Comfortable
Always remember that period sex isn’t for everyone. So, before anything else, make sure that everyone’s on the same boat.
Ask for consent from everyone involved and prepare the necessary stuff, from dark towels to protection items.
If painkillers are a must for your cramps, then equip those too. And if something feels uncomfortable, don’t forget to take pauses or stop the entire activity if needed.
Do It in the Shower
If you or your partner are the type to be squeamish about blood, but still want to get down during red days, then the best solution would be having sex in the shower.
Having sex in the shower can also make you and your partner feel more at ease, because your inhibitions go lower. It’s also easier to clean up when you do it under the water, as long as you keep the shower head open to wash the blood immediately.
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Try Using a Menstrual Disc
Just like a tampon, you can insert a menstrual disc during your period. If a tampon is meant to absorb blood, a menstrual disc will let you have penetrative sex, but all without the mess.
Cover Your Love Nest
If you prefer doing the deed on your bed, you can opt for rubberized or waterproof sheets to help protect the mattress. And you can also add some towels to help catch all those juices that you don’t want to get in contact with your bed or body.
Choose Gentle Positions
If you’re having your period, you may want to skip doing adventurous sex positions for now, because nobody wants blood to be splattered all over during play.
You can go for something more gentle, like doing missionary or spooning, to let you keep the blood more controlled.
Although these positions sound vanilla, you can always play with different angles and depth of penetration. But if you're feeling it so bad that you want to taste something wild, then shower sex is the safest option.
Someone also shared their experience on Reddit and stated that the cervix can get lower during red days, so you might also want to consider that.
So, be wary during penetration and when discovering different angles during this time, because mindlessly hitting the cervix can feel painful.
Don’t Be Afraid to Be Kinky
Period sex doesn’t mean you have to restrict all of your desires.
You can still be naughty and try BDSM during this sensitive time, so take advantage of using blindfolds or even try temperature play to add more hotness.
If you don’t have anything on hand, just put that shirt over your partner’s eyes, or you can lick and nibble those erogenous zones, too.
Try Something Non-Penetrative
If you’re not a fan of PIV sex during period, then you can always try non-penetrative techniques, for example, mutual masturbation.
You can also try anal play, and don’t be afraid to try oral sex. Just soap up thoroughly.
Related: 5 Best Anal Sex Positions (With Tips for Pleasure, Comfort, and Safety)
Do It During Lighter Days
Does dealing with a huge amount of blood look icky for you? Then try doing it during the vulva owner’s lighter days.
Also, you both can wait until the blood flow becomes lighter, because other than being easier to clean, it can likely give you a more positive sexual experience.
Keep Cleaning Items at Bay
For extra preparation, you can keep a tissue or wet wipes on your nightstand, so you can catch and wipe any unwanted fluids during emergencies.
Track Your Period
This may sound simple, but tracking your period will let you monitor your heavy and light days, as well as the days with a high risk of pregnancy.
You can also take notes if you used toys or track any changes in your libido, and these features are convenient enough to do in an app.
Are There Any Health Risks That Come With Period Sex?
While period sex comes with lots of benefits, it’s accompanied by risks, too.
For example, doing unprotected period sex can likely increase your risk of contracting STIs, specifically trichomonas vaginalis. During your period, the consistent flow of blood can weaken the pH of the vagina, which leads to a more vulnerable vaginal flora.
So, don’t forget to put on a condom if you’re getting down with someone who hasn't been tested; it doesn’t matter if you’re doing it during your period or not.
Also, keep in mind that during shower sex, condoms can likely slip off, so be careful, and an excessive amount of blood can also make things extra slippery.
Some couples resort to anal sex during their period, but make sure to be mindful that doing it the wrong way can likely give any of you a urinary tract infection (UTI). And according to the World Health Organization (WHO), 30 types of pathogens can be transferred and possibly infect a person after some contact.
FAQs
Can having sex during my period affect how heavy my flow is?
It’s possible. Some vulva owners even reported that after reaching an orgasm, the contraction of the uterus increased the amount of their blood flow. But this should be temporary, though. If your bleeding becomes super heavy, lasts longer than it should, and is associated with severe pain, then you should give your healthcare provider a call.
We did period sex, and I feel so sore. Is this normal?
Your hormonal changes, lower cervix, and breast tenderness can change how you react to sex during this time. Sometimes, the pleasurable things feel different and painful during your period, so you might want to add more lube and use gentle movements to manage that. Or, just stick to external stimulation for a gentler approach.
Can sex during period still cause an infection, even if we’re both STI-free?
It can. As mentioned earlier, the menstrual blood can lower the vagina’s pH, making you more prone to not just STIs, but also bacterial vaginosis and yeast infections. But that doesn’t automatically mean that having sex during your period will give you an infection. To protect the natural balance of your vagina, avoid using harsh and scented cleansers or even douching.
Is oral sex safe during period sex?
Usually, it is. But if your partner’s untested, period blood can still carry infections from the blood, just like HIV and hepatitis. So if you’re both unsure, or you have any cuts, you can use dental dams to keep each other protected. The only downside of period oral sex is the taste of blood, so don’t forget to wipe and clean regularly.
Can I still get pregnant if I had sex on the last day of my period?
Yes, because even if the possibility of pregnancy during period is low, it’s never zero. The sperm can survive in the reproductive tract for around five days, even if you have a short or long cycle. Using period sex as a form of contraception isn’t 100% effective, as many people believe.
Is it okay to use sex toys during my period?
Yes, as long as you clean them before and after each use, and change the condoms every time you use them in another hole. But if you feel any vaginal irritation or dryness in your area, you'd better skip putting anything in it, just to be on the safe side.
Red Days, Hot Nights
During your period, your sex life shouldn’t be on mute. Whether you’re in the mood for something slow like spooning, or something wet like shower sex, it’s all up to you. It’s valid. It’s a pleasure that’s yours.
And if you want to make your red-day rituals much more amazing, you can always explore BeYourLover’s collection of toys to turn your “period mode” into “pleasure mode” in a snap!
Special Thanks:
Elizabeth Scott - Writer - Verywell Mind
World Health Organization (WHO)
If period sex is your thing, then you might want to check these guides about Masturbation Safety During Period, How to Stimulate the A-Spot, and How to Achieve Vaginal Orgasm (With Toy Tips).
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