Harder doesn't mean hotter. Here’s how you can actually make it hot for her.
You’re about to get close with your partner, and then you ask yourself if you’re actually doing it right.
We get you. Nobody teaches this stuff. Porn isn’t a guide, and your friends’ tips are either hit or miss. So you guess, and guessing feels awkward for both of you.
You don’t have to guess anymore. This article will help you become an expert in boobs sucking that will make your partner scream in pleasure.
The Quick Way: How to Suck Your Partner’s Boobs
If you’re that in a hurry because you’re gonna have your lovey dovey session in five minutes, don’t fret.
Ask first. Start soft. Kiss the skin around the nipple, then use light suction and slow tongue moves. Watch how your partner reacts, and change your pace and pressure based on what they say or do. If they say stop, or if there's any pain, stop right away.
But if you have more time to fully understand and become an expert in boob sucking, read on.
Why Many People Like Breast and Nipple Sucking
You might wonder if this is a common thing to enjoy. In a 2006 article published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, Roy Levin and Cindy Meston looked at 301 young adults who had had sex. Here's what they found:
- 81.5% of women and 51.7% of men said nipple or breast stimulation caused or raised their arousal.
- 78.2% of women said it raised their arousal when they were already turned on.
- 59.1% of women and 17.1% of men had asked a partner to do it.
- 7.2% of women and 7.5% of men said it lowered their arousal.
Now, a fair warning. These numbers cover nipple and breast stimulation in general, not only sucking. Most of the people in the study were young students. So the results don't apply to everyone. Treat them as a guide, not a rule.
This study is supported by a neuroimaging study conducted by Dr. Nan Wise in 2011, where she and her colleagues used an MRI machine to discover that nipple stimulation activates the brain's "genital sensory cortex."
What People May Feel
Many people feel more arousal, more pleasure, and a sense of closeness. Some people can reach orgasm from breast play alone, but that's not common for everyone.
Other people feel very little. Some feel too sensitive. A few feel sick to their stomach or just uneasy. Nerve feeling in the nipple varies from person to person.
If you will ask if it’s still normal that your partner might not like it, the answer is yes. It's totally normal. It says nothing about your partner, your skills, or your sex life. A "no" or a "not much" is a real and valid answer. Respect it, and move on to another kind of touch that feels good for her.
“Depends on my mood. If I’m not in the mood it just kinda feels like sensitive skin being suctioned.
It feels kinda pleasurable if I’m in the mood, but more in an arousing, stimulating way than ‘I’m gonna finish’ from it.” - Goaterra
“It’s the absolute easiest way for my husband to get me in the mood. I can’t really describe the feeling but it feels nice. I know it’s not the same for everyone though.” - Zizillama
“For me, it’s just weird and uncomfortable. Doesn’t feel good, but every guy wants to do it so I’ll put up with it if they’re willing to do other things that actually feel good for me” - Riceewifee
Before You Start: Consent, Talk, and Set the Mood
You might want to jump into the meaty stuff but it’s important that we discuss what happens before the most anticipated moment. If you don’t do this, there’s a risk that what happens next might end up awkwardly or even strain your relationship.
So, here’s what to do before you jump into sucking boobs.
Ask First
Asking doesn't kill the mood. If done right, it adds to the hotness of the moment. You can ask:
- "Can I kiss your chest?"
- "Is this too soft or too hard?"
- "Want me to keep going, or try something new?"
Remember that consent can change at any time. A yes at the start doesn't mean a yes for the whole night, so keep checking in.
Also, every body is different, and that includes trans and non-binary partners. Some people love chest touch. Some feel uneasy about it. Some want it only at certain times. Ask, and use the words your partner prefers for their body.
Talk About Limits
A short chat can save you from a lot of awkward moments. Ask about:
- Sore spots
- Bad past experiences
- Soreness linked to a cycle
- A word or signal for "slow down" and one for "stop"
Set the Scene
Keep the room warm. Wash your hands, trim your nails, and freshen your breath. Start with gentle kissing and touch so your partner's body can relax. Rushing to the chest can feel abrupt.
9 Steps on How to Suck Boobs
Here's the plan in three words: ask, pay attention, adjust. The nine steps below put that plan to work.
Step 1: Start With Kisses, Not Suction
Kiss the neck, collarbone, and upper chest. Move slowly toward the breast. Let your partner feel the build-up with a few foreplay.
Step 2: Use Your Hands First
Try light touch, soft circles, and gentle holding. Warm your hands first. If your partner is at ease with it, add a little safe massage oil or a body-safe product.
Step 3: Kiss and Lick the Skin Around the Nipple
This area is called the areola. Use flat, slow tongue strokes. Many people like a teasing build-up before direct contact with the nipple.
Step 4: Add Light Suction on the Nipple
Keep your lips soft and wrap them around the nipple. Use a light amount of suction, and let go often. Not sure what "light" means? Here's a simple rule. If your partner would call it a kiss, you're in the right range.
You can also include a suction toy in the mix, if your mouth prefers to do other things and let the nipple toy do the suction for you.
Related: Must-Have Sex Toys to Stimulate Your Boobs
Step 5: Mix Your Tongue Moves
Try slow circles, soft flicks, and side-to-side strokes. Change one thing at a time. That way you can tell what works and what doesn't.
Step 6: Change Pressure and Speed in Small Steps
Go from soft to a bit firmer only if your partner asks for it or reacts well. You can also try warm breath or cool breath for a change in feel, if they want it.
Step 7: Use Your Hand on the Other Breast
Don't leave the other side out. Try light rolling, soft squeezing, or slow circles.
Step 8: Read the Signs
Your partner's body will tell you a lot. It’s a good sign if your partner is breathing deeply, moving closer, making soft sounds, and guiding your hands or mouth. But, it’s a sign to stop or check in if your partner is pulling away, tensing up, going quiet, or flinching.
Step 9: Stop or Move On
Stop right away if your partner says stop or shows pain. When they're ready, you can move on to another touch. That could be kissing, hands, oral sex, or sex.
For more in-depth advice, check out Arica Angelo’s video on How to Suck Her Breasts and Drive Her Crazy.
Body Position Tips
Comfort is important. There are two easy positions to start with: your partner lies back with a pillow under the shoulders, or sits on your lap facing you. Watch for neck strain, and shift if either of you feels off.
If you want more guidance on how you can get your partner to have a nipple orgasm, check out our guide on How to Have a Nipple Orgasm. And if you want to incorporate toys for a better experience, then you need to find out what are the must-have toys for those boobs.
FAQs on How to Suck Boobs
How do I suck boobs without hurting my partner?
Use light suction, soft lips, and slow moves. Keep your teeth out of it. Ask how it feels, and let go often. If your partner winces or pulls back, ease up right away.
Should I use my teeth?
Only if your partner clearly asks, and even then, go gently. Biting can cause pain and skin damage. When in doubt, leave the teeth out.
Can someone orgasm from breast sucking alone?
Some people can, but many can't. Reactions differ from person to person. Don't treat it as a goal. Enjoy the feel of it instead.
What if my partner doesn't like it?
Respect it. About 7% of people in the study said it lowered their arousal. That's normal. Try another touch, and ask what they'd like instead.
Is it safe during pregnancy?
Ask a doctor first. Nipple stimulation may release oxytocin, a hormone that can cause contractions. Your doctor can tell you what's safe for you.
Can men enjoy nipple sucking too?
Many do. In the study, 51.7% of men said it raised their arousal. As with anyone, ask first and follow their lead.
How long should I do it?
There's no set time. Follow your partner's signals, and take breaks. Some people want a few minutes. Others want much more.
Can toys help?
Yes, if you use them gently. Start on low, and stop if there's any pain. Check the skin as you go.
Special Thanks To:
Roy J. Levin - Academic Researcher - Journal of Sexual Medicine
Adrienne Matei - Writer - The Guardian US
Arica Angelo - Dating and Relationship Expert - YouTube
Goaterra
Zizillama
Riceewifee
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