Vibes getting outdated? Upgrade it and make it dirty!
Imagine your home tonight, with the lights dim, clothes hit the floor, but instead of your usual routine, you’re whispering commands, teasing your partner with ice cubes, and exploring those “off-limits” spots.
You start making your boo moan like they never did before, sounds hot right?
If you think sex has become a bit predictable for you, these dirty moves are here to help, while keeping things safe.
Now let's transform your vanilla nights into something that'll have you both hooked!
So What Counts as Dirty Sex?
Everyone can see dirty sex differently, but there’s no strict rulebook here, and hey, it’s not about getting literally messy and using any weird stuff (well, unless it’s your jam), and everything’s optional.
The “dirty” label? Maybe because of the rebellious vibes it gives. Whatever floats your boat. And the dirty factor gives sex that forbidden thrill, from being kinky to even twisted.
The thing is, dirty sex is just a way to make things spicier for you, and you can think of tying, powerplay, a playful spank, or even dirty talk to make your wildest fantasies come true.
How to Tell If Your Boo is Down for Some Dirty Sex
Wondering if they'll looove it as much as you do? You can always start casually and dip your toes with light questions, like asking them what fantasies they have, or if they imagine themselves being tied up sometimes (or maybe doing the tying).
Ask them what gets them going in bed, and you can try using some light dirty talk while you’re at it, and these questions will surely open those doors to spill their secrets.
You might also wanna share the things that turn you on from there, or even team up with them when creating ideas.
But if they feel shy or it's a NO for them, respect it. No pressure. As dirty sex might click later on or not, consent will always be non-negotiable, and for long-term couples, one might play cool at first, but you can also add some slut shaming and just own your horniness.
Just be patient, and you might uncover this bedroom freak that you never saw coming!
Set Those Limits and Keep Talking All the Way Through
Consent should keep everyone pumped up for the next activity, because dirty sex has a wide range, and it doesn’t just involve some hot slamming and choking. You have to get that enthusiastic yes, so you and your partner can set your own limits.
Catharsis Production also said that consent shouldn’t only happen during sex, but outside the bedroom too, as it makes the relationship stronger, builds trust and respect, solves problems better, and makes you and your boo closer.
Dirty sex isn’t all moans; in fact, it’s chatty, so tell them what turns you on, your boundaries, and use safe words for a full stop, to prevent the adrenaline rush from blurring the lines and going overboard.
But if you’re going for mouth stuff or breath play (asphyxiation), you can use signals that don’t use words, like head shakes or tapping your leg twice, and nope, safe words aren’t just for the sub, because tops can also tap out.
Do These Naughty Tips to Make Your Dirty Sex Epic
If you’re already craving that rawness in bed, then these tips will turn your next dirty sex scorching hot!
Spill Your Sexiest Fantasies, Bit by Bit
So, you just notice your partner giving off that “let’s get naughty” vibe, and you wanna kick off by sharing a sexy fantasy or two, but first, drip it out slowly so you can gauge their reaction.
And once they open up to you (fingers crossed), try to hype their ideas with no side-eye judgment. Or they might clam up against your dirty sex dreams.
Oh, another thing, try to stick to your fantasies only and skip the real ones (especially if it subtly has something to do with your ex), as they might spark jealousy, not fun.
And speaking of fantasy, you can always add this BeYourLover Fantasy Cup masturbator to your play once your partner has consented, and while you’re at it, for extra nipple play, you can use these NOIR vibrating nipple clamps to push those cherry buttons.
Always Turn It Into a Fun Experience for Both of You
If you’re the kink vet from the two of you and it’s their first time, understand that it can feel intimidating for them, so level the field and pick something that neither of you has tried.
You can use a new toy that doesn’t scream domination, like this BeYourLover Perfume that works as a suction vibrator, or this super cute GUITAR vibrating and suction toy, so you won’t scare your partner away, or you can try using a new position and pitch it as your “new adventure,” and watch how they’ll drop their guard faster because it gives the feeling like you’re both rookies.
Some couples might prefer a guide, but test first what makes them feel most relaxed and roll with it.
You Can Kick Things Off With a Playful Sex Game
If you’re both eyeing dirtier nights and fully ready for it, then that’s awesome! You can just skip all the awkward stuff and grab a sex game to make your night more fun.
Before the night, you can shop for games like couple cards or game boards, but if you don’t have anything on hand, you can always improvise, just think of naughty Scrabble or Poker, and the one who loses will strip.
But if you want to make things dirtier (we’re sure you do), you can add remote-controlled toys to play, like this BeYourLover M2 thruster, and just leave everything to your partner’s hands, or this Sixth Sense if you guys are looking for something wearable while you’re having fun.
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Bonus: Truth or Dare will always be a classic, but you can add twists like giving dares for a blindfold massage, or truth for spilling their wildest fantasies, and it’ll surely loosen you up and make your connection tighter.
Watch Porn or Read Some Steamy Erotica Before Anything Else
You can also try firing up the mood by watching porn stars in action with your boo or reading some sizzling erotica with them, and even if they’re not a huge fan of porn, this shared vibe might put them in the mood for dirty play.
It might take some time, but once they get used to it, they get more and more relaxed about the idea, and if you notice, they start to become more open to your ideas, and you can suggest using this BDSM Green Bondage Kit. Especially if you and your boo’s kink are also a match.
BDSM BONDAGE KIT - GREEN
🎁 What's Inside the Kit:
🔇 Ball Gag — Silence speaks volumes.
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⛓️ Ankle Cuffs — Total control, total surrender.
😌 Blindfold — Heighten every other sense.
🖐️ Paddle — The sting that says, “more.”
🐾 Leash — For playful domination.
👑 Collar — Claim it, wear it, own it.
Make Their Warm Skin Feel Cold by Getting Icy
Giving oral? You can put ice in your mouth before you go down on your partner, and ice cubes are the cheapest temperature toy that you’ll find around, which is great if you want some sensory action when getting dirty.
Next, you can create trails on your boo’s body by tracing the cube, especially on their yummy spots, to give them a chilling and sexy feeling.
Tired of Stripping? Then Dress Up
Dirty sex isn’t just all about kinks, but it also helps you both to escape from reality. And it's a great feeling to forget about your daily routines every once in a while, right?
You can always become a dirtier, yet more amazing version of yourself, and if you or your partner isn’t comfortable getting naked all the way, you can try some clothes that you don't usually wear to get in the mood.
If you want to dominate your partner with the appetite of a wolf, you can try this sexy Little Red Riding Hood Cosplay Lingerie Set, or if you wanna act like a slave that you are, then you’d better grab this Cat Maid Lingerie Camisole today to serve your master.
Role play is awesome. It helps build intimacy, do the impossible, and discover each other’s bodies and personalities, as per Talani Newton of Vush, and other than being a dominant and submissive, you can also play roles as strangers, boss and secretary, or even student and professor themes.
Spank Them, Pull Their Hair, or Watch Them Masturbate
Yes, spanking can be hot, but let’s hope that it won’t just land out of nowhere, so please don’t startle your partner and kill the vibe by asking for permission.
The same thing goes when pulling their hair, especially when going down on you, or you can gently pull their hair and see how they like it, and even watch them masturbate, especially if they’re the type to get off while you’re looking straight into their eyes.
Phrases and Gestures You or Your Partner Can Use During Dirty Sex
If you have a high sex drive and you feel like your partner hasn’t, you can talk dirty by using these phrases below or even make sexy gestures to help turn them on.
In this Reddit discussion, some users stated that giving your partner’s body some loving words can do wonders. And make sure not to giggle or laugh at them or their performance to avoid killing their confidence.
You can also ask your partner to do it slower, faster, or tell them what’s good and what’s not, and don’t be shy to let yourself go and let those moans out whenever you have to.
When talking dirty, you can say phrases like:
- “How does it feel? Is it good?”
- “You feel so good inside me.”
- “Spank me.”
- “Choke me.”
- “Pull my hair.”
- “You better behave while I ride you.”
Be creative. You can also use derogatory terms, but only do it once your partner has given their consent, or you can just blurt whatever comes to mind during the heat of the moment, because sex feels better if it’s real and honest.
FAQs
Is there a way to “reduce” the risk of my partner getting turned off by my dirty talk?
Dirty talk can have a lower risk for physical harm. But if you’re a new couple, you can start doing this via phone or text first. And test the waters with how they feel about it.
Is it really ethical to watch porn with my partner?
Nothing wrong with it. As long as both of you know your limits and see porn as a form of entertainment, it can be a hot way to bring this into your sex life, and you can also do some mutual masturbation while you’re at it.
What’s brat play?
During brat play, one partner (the sub) can be punished by the other to teach them a lesson. And this can involve slaps, rough sex, and even forced orgasms.
Ready to Let Your Dirty, Wild Side Go Tonight?
You can always ditch those dull moments by making things a bit filthy, and make your nights more breathless and begging for more.
So, talk about it with your partner, prepare your stuff and toys, and let your wild sides run free (with consent), to kick those vanilla vibes outta the bedroom tonight!
You can do these steamy tricks, grab those role-play outfits, and grab these killer couple toys from BeYourLover here to get filthy, safe, and make your bedroom the hottest spot in town, so what are you waiting for?
